Ok guys well I have recently had a fight with one of my best friends because she is friends with a girl at school.Now this may first of all seem bad on my fault but this girl just happens to be a backstabber,rude and a total blabber mouth.I have been backstabbed by that girl so many times its not funny.I told my friend this but she seems to think the girl won't do that to her.I just don't want my friend to be hurt by this girl and I don't know how to say it 'I'm sorry but she sucks?"I don't think so.The two of them have recently been running away and leaving me like a loner at lunch and I am getting sick of it.My friend says that she didn't mean to hurt my feelings and then said that the girl is following her around like a bad smell but then I told my friend to tell the girl to go away but then she says that the girl is her friend and she wouldn't tell me to go away so she won't tell the girl to go away.I am really worried that my friend might ignore me completly and then the girl will go and backstab her what should I do???

My one friend is kind of like that, in the sense that she believes everyone is an absolute angel. ANother one of my friends drinks, and hangs out with goths, as well as with me.. which sucks, because she's becoming a bad influence and we care about her and don't want her hanging out with dodge people.

As hard as it may seem, you've got to tell your friend to choose between the other girl and you. Now, that may seem rude and unfair, but if she's really your friend and if she really cares about you, she should choose. Tell your friend that you're worried about her, and that that other girl isn't kosher. And if your friend freaks or says that you're not being fair etc, then she's not a true friend.

I know that having to do that sucks, but that's the only thing I can think of doing. I have this sort of motto: "I'd rather have one true friend, than have loads of fake friends." Which could also be "I'd rather have no friends, than have fake friends".

Hope that's helped a little. :)

Well here's a perfect case of do whatever feels best to you because while Sardine's suggestion makes sense and you certainly do have the right to tell your friend that, you need to decide how much you want her as a friend. Everyone makes mistakes and sometimes they make a friend that no one else likes. Sometimes they do get hurt by that person and they wish that had listened to their real friends. My question to you is do you care enough about this friend to allow her to make her own choices and mistakes and then be there for her to help her if and when she does get hurt? Because some people react really badly to ultimatums and when pushed into that corner come out fighting against the person that made the ultimatum even though if it had never been given, the person would have chosen differently. For all you know your friend and this girl might stop being friends in just a couple weeks. Are you willing to make an ultimatum that could make you lose her as a friend forever?

It's a tough decision Twy and either way you are completely justififed. She's definitely not being a very good friend to you right now that's for sure.

When my friends make up situations ie they want to commit suicide/want to smoke etc, and ask me what I would do, I say the same thing: It's your life, and you can do what you want with it. Don't expect me to follow you, and don't try to make me change. But whatever decision you make, chances are I'll still be there if you need me.

My friends think it's harsh, but it is their life. If they want to do something that concerns their life, then they have the right to that.

I think you can apply that to your situation. It's up to your friend to choose what sort of friends she wants to hang out with, but it's up to you to decide if you still want to stick by that person.

Dream's right; people make mistakes and if you confront them they could lash out and hate you. Your friend has a choice, and so do you. If you and her are truly friends, things will sort themselves out.. I know this from experience.

thanks for helping you guys this is gonna be hard seeing as I am seeing my friend 2morrow coz i was off skool sick 2day but thank you guys this is a big help and yeah sardine u sound like u can totally relate because this girl is rude and a backstabber (so nobody on the LC) but my friend will soon learn what kind of girl she is

How did things go? If I may ask.