Okay, problem I've had with the LC people in general. I'd like everyone to remember something about Hogwarts., when you first come to the school you are 11 years old. Not 16, 18 or whatever. I don't want to seem all bitter because Erin isn't dating anyone, because honestly she's not all boy crazy unlike SOME people.

Seriously people, ACT YOUR AGE! All the people whose characters are in relationships act like they are MARRIED! With the exception of Remy and Dream, thats not the case I'm pretty sure. We are all mostly between the ages of 11 and 16, so we should act like it. This is Hogwarts, a student for teenagers, not Perfect Relationship Land, lets see some breakups, some fights between couples, and jealousy!

Let's act like KIDS already! Mature relationships are for mature-er threads like "Time for War" not for while we are all still in school. Remember the relationships that lasted a single day, that consisted of a note being passed, asking if so and so wanted to date so-and-so, the acceptance, and the breakup the VERY SAME DAY? Remember all the gossip, and the fighting, and jealousy of the early teenage years? The feeling of having a crush? I'm surprised that Sil's shop hasn't gotten TONS of orders for love potions, whether they worked or NOT.

So I ask all of you other members of the Leaky Cauldron, let's ditch the false maturity that everyone's characters seem to have. I play that way, and I hope that some others will too. Let's act our character's ages why don't we?

~Pyrii

I support that in the sense that people aren't acting their age.
I've never supported the whole relationship thing. And like you, Pyrii, I'm not saying that because my character doesn't have a boyfriend. Seriously, if you're 10, 11, 12, 13, or even 14, you shouldn't even have a boyfriend, RP world or not.

Those are my views.

I think that maybe you guys are making a big deal out of a little thing. This is make believe after all. And its a persons personal choice as to how their character acts, you can't tell someone that their character has to act a certain age. I'm not saying this because my character is in a relationship, and Erin I feel that you are aiming your comments partly at me and Liam because of the hospital thread. I don't think that there is any problem with the way that people are acting on the site when it comes to relationships, as long as nothing innapropriate happens, I just don't see what the big deal is.

I'm not exactly sure about this thread... but I do have a comment to make. I can think of quite a few people on this site who "are in a relationship" who are the actual ages or younger than their RP character and they are being included in the "acting too mature" statement. To me that just says that this is how they personally would really act. I understand things like not being able to produce a patronus as a second or third year, but I think that the relationship thing, as long as it isnt hurting anyone, should be up to the individuals in it. As for some break ups and everything else, I understand what you're saying, and it's natural for it to happen. It even has happened before. Unfortunately it usually ends in a mad house of drama all over the site, so I for one hope that everyone in a "relationship" on the site, stays in it happily.

I agree with Melie and it looks I like it might come down to a have's verses have not's even if we claim that's not what's going on. We're here to have fun people and we are doing what is fun for us. If you think it would be fun to have a messy break up after a day of going out, go for it. But remember how long a day can last in some threads. I am still out on a first date in one thread, with my “boyfriend” and possibly going to get a first kiss in another thread, I think we are doing pretty well. Also I think Sil and Jojo do very well at mimicking young love as well as Mark and Emma. Don’t forget Mari’s very realistic display of jealousy a few months back. Yeah not broke up over it, but it was there. I don’t really need to defend the reality of my relationship or anyone elses to you or to anyone as long as the rp’s stay pg. So I think I will have to ask you respectfully to mind your own business.

I figured this would happen eventually. It happened on a different RP site that I was on.

I can see where you are coming from Erin. However, it is a bit hard to get back into the swing of acting elementary school age. The characters on this website also begin to age differently as the years go by. I mean, a bunch of us are supposedly around age 13-16, the age where dating usually happens. If your characters can just have a fun little relationship then I don't see anything really wrong with it.

On the other hand, if it is going over pg material, then that calls for an intervention.

Something I thought of: there are some of us on here who haven't experienced a real relationship, only RP's ones. What if they think that an RP relationship is the same as a real one? What if a 12 or 13 year old has a break-up on here and doesn't know what the heck to do? I don't think that this has happened, but we get more and more young members every week.

I don't think Erin is trying to tell you what to do. She is minding her own business. Maybe (like me), she just wants to make this as real as possible? I also believed in the acting your age and trying to make this like Hogwarts really would be. I also tried to enforce it.

Correct me if I'm wrong.

Let me reiterate, I am not advocating that everyone break up and have random relationships and such, but like Sardine noticed, not everyone on the site may have had a relationship besides one they might have here. It kinda lulls people into a false sense of security, as its usually pretty EASY to get in and maintain a relationship while roleplaying.

I just want people to remember their ages, and a act a bit more true to the setting. You all go out and have snowball fights, and pillow fights and whatnot that young kids do, then you go out and act like two lovers from a Shakespearian drama. It's a interesting dualism, that you switch from such maturity, to such immaturity.

All I ask is that people try to be a bit more consistent, and to try keeping things in their context. There are many other places to roleplay on the internet if you want to have full fledged romance, but Hogwarts isn't quite the place for it.

<<Currently Listening to: "Riff Raff" by AC/DC>>

I think this thread really borders the line of ridiculous. Let me remind people that they are not witches or wizards and do not have magical powers in real life. Obviously the people on the site need to have that told to them since they need to be told that a relationship on a Role Playing R Site isnt a real relationship. I mean SERIOSLY!

I see your point pyrii but it is still up to the individuals to determine how exactly they want there characters to interact with each other. And are you really saying that mature people do not engage in snow ball fights :blink:

I never said that Remy, and Dream... you'd be surprised. I don't want anybody's characters to go and break up because of what I said, I am just saying, feel free to mix it up some. Its just odd to see people acting all childish, then acting like soap opera lovers.

<<Currently Listening to: "Drifting Away" by CLSM feat Stefan B>>

I guess i read that wrong - my bad but as great of an observation that is it is still up to the individuals on how they want to act. Is it odd?? maybe but that is an opinion as others might think that acting that way is the way to go.

Ok so when I posted at the beginning of this thread, I was planning on it being the only time I posted here. Erin, Sardine, I'm sorry you feel this way but people are going to RP how they want. How would you two like it if someone told you that your pranks where characters get really hurt are too dangerous and you aren't allowed to do them? or the style of writing that you do isn't how people like so you have to change it? Thats pretty much what you're telling people, they can't write their posts how they want. Erin, I know you probablly didn't mean it but I was completely offended by your posts in this thread. I, and several others, know that you are talking about me and Liam for much of this, and I am really annoyed by the fact that this thread was even started, that this topic is even being talked about. Let people post how they want, and have their characters be the way that they want, because otherwise its not fun, and when its not fun, well, no one will come anymore.

Don't take it personally Melie, this isn't a attack on you and Liam, or any other couple on the site. This topic does have a little to do with you, but its not personal. Don't think you are the only one I am talking about.

Do what you will, I am just trying to get people to notice how they are acting. Don't change anything if you want, I don't really care, the whole point of this thread was to bring attention to the fact that we are roleplaying as younger teenagers.

This thread has nothing to do with me wanting people to break off relationships to placate me. Thats your choice, not mine. I am just raising a subject, and asking that everyone think about it a bit. Don't go assuming I am attacking you for having a relationship on a roleplaying forum. It happens, and I honestly have better things to do with my time than heckling you for it.

So I just want you to remember how old your character is when you are on the LC. Get it? Just remember that, and I am happy. Keep your character's relationships or not, it's your choice not mine.

<<Currently Listening to: "The Reason" by Q-tex>>

I have no idea who is getting all shakespearian on the site, but certainly not me... i do get dramatic when it comes to injuries because it's funny. but in real life i am only 14 and 3/4 (yrs old). i Do have a boyfriend and he is my first but that is BESIDES THE POINT! here on the LC, you can be whatver you want to be...
as long as you are not insulting or causing problems, OR inserting nasty and adulterated materials into your posts...you're fine!

just saying my P.O.V...

ignore me if you wish... my relationship with khai on here isn't real! he lives on the other side of the world from me! two oceans away!
just saying what's on my mind about thius.. see ya.

Who told you to tell everyone to "think" about the way that they are roleplaying? You didn't even pretend to make this a discussion by asking if people if they thought that people in relationships on the site were acting to maturely. You flat out TOLD everyone that they NEEDED to RP the way that really YOU WANT them to! Then when people got defensive, you tried to say that it was for the sake of people who might get too involved in them and think they are real. I don't understand where you felt that you had any right to do that. I'm sorry if I'm looked at differently for posting in here and stating my opinion, but seriously this is ridiculous and I WILL leave this site before I will have ANYONE other than Rogue or another Mod telling me how I should be RP'ing!

Erin as if anyone would change the way they role play to placate you. Please. I don't appreciate being REMINDED how to have my act or react. You don't have the right to tell us how to RP. It's rude. If you don't like the more mature couples, don't role play with them or read the threads that they are in. And if you really have better things to do besides causing drama with your time, then stop making threads like this.

I'm not saying people can't do stuff. I'm not telling you to stop with your games and whatnot, and act like adults. No, I'm saying that there are young people on this site who might look up to you (even if you don't know it), and who might follow your posts and RP's. While you know what you're doing, they might not.

Sure, a relationship can be great, but it's also easy to fall in love over the internet. I know; it happened to me.

Make your character have ocean-blue hair and have an elephant's trunk, if you want it to be that way. Write how you want to. Have your fake relationships if you really have to, just remember this:
This isn't a dating site. This is a role-playing and discussion site.

And from what I've seen, this has been turned into a dating site.

wow so many people butt hurt over a single comment....seriously Erin said that she was just pointing something out and making a suggestion Dream stop being a drama queen you too scar i mean really come on this is the internet it isn't like she is saying "Yarg change your rp to what i want it to be Grog!" no she said still do what ever just stop keeping it so predictable heck i have an interesting plan in naks relationship that i am putting into motion soon here.

It is all about making the Rps as close to real life as possible we have our quirks so someone has to be annoyed by there partner on some occasion.

well this is my only post here later

exactly which is why i see no problem with any of the couples on the site, sure theres holding hands and stuff but if you actually spent some time looking you'd find problems with each of the couples...jealousy, fights, mistrust now if that isn't real then i dont know what is. Now as for this not being a dating site no its not but at the same time this is hogwarts and dating did occur in the books and even though couples do exist they are by no means taking over the site GET OVER IT. Most of the couples have private threads to keep there interactions private if you read it thats your choice but there are lots of other threads that you can go into and ignore those if you so choose. Remember you have the power to choose what thread you want to be a part of so stop crying about how someone else is posting or not posting.

This thread is for everyone cept me. Cause I act like a five year and everyone likes me so HAA!!!!! :P! Any way going on whjat everyone is saying people are getting too serious. Its like the girls who dont have a boyfrined are eithet totally cool with it or like pining over guys...Yes I mean you Remy...Lol....But any less of my randomness. This is not a dating site and people will break up and people will get jealous and whatev. ACT UR AGE PEEPS!

PS...although Dream loves givng me detenton I <3 DREAMYYYYYYY!

Who is pining over Remy?!?!? *glares at Cassie and grabs wand out of pocket* Anyways I think that everyone should stop telling people what to do. If you have a problem, then ASK people if they would consider changing their behavior. Thats my biggest peeve about this. Also remember. If you have a problem with the way someone is acting, chances are that they or someone else has a problem with the way YOU act. How would you feel if they started a thread like this telling YOU what to do? And just because one person had a bad experience and didnt know the difference between a boyfriend and an internet fling doesnt mean that the people who are smart enough to know the difference should be harrassed about it! And thats exactly what this thread is. Harrassment thats now causing drama in the whole site. Congratulations.

Id just like to thank everyone who has posted in here so far for making an intersting 10minutes reading.
Bravo! Encore! Bis!
:wub:

Lmao! These are the reasons we love you Bruce. :P

And your skillfully humorous way of diffusing an argument is defiantly a reason to love you McBats. Just try to keep it pg with the lambs ok. :P

Okay.... since everyone has had their say of things, here's mine:

Sardine: We haven't had any issues with the whole dating thing for a very long time. I've kept watch. Members know that this isn't a dating service, is. We've had this discussion about the relationships. It isn't a problem anymore, so I'm not sure what your point

Erin: Several people have expressed to you that they are offended by your post. After reading all of this, I can completley see why they would think this. Erin, maybe it wasn't your intention but you were tellilng people what to do. Proof of this is in the title of this thread alone: ACT YOUR OWN AGES PEOPLE! all in caps lock, I might add. Again, maybe that wasn't your intention, but that's what is sounds like on the recieving in. It sounded rude.

This basically sums up my thoughts on this matter. Erin, you don't have to remind people of how they should act: I want this site to be fun, and part of that is members making their own decisions of how they want their characters to act. Even if you felt the need to bring up this topic, I think you could have done it a lot better. Like someone said, you could have brought up the topic, or ask people if they would stick more to their rp ages, vs the way you expressed it. This thread has caused a lot of uncessary drama (folks accusing others of being drama queens, etc. absolutley ridiculous) and I think you could have handled it so much differently. If by nothing else, contacting me privately first. But even if you wanted to make it public, you didn't have to come off as the way you did. You could have brought it up in a general manner.

Rouge, you know my views on the dating bull.

Dream, if you had read what Erin and myself have said, you would realise that no one is telling anyone to stop doing whatever. Erin made a suggestion, a request. She's not trying to tell you what to do; she's trying to make this board more realistic.

I'm done with this thread. I've said my piece and the person who runs this site has said his. I'm not even going to respond to anymore comments after this, so people shouldn't even bother addressing me here because they will ignored.

Gosh, when it gets put like that... Who cares?!? As it has been pointed out, real life is for break ups and real stuff, that's why it's called REALITY people! If you're all getting upset because people are acting *Yes acting* like their relationships, be it friend or otherwise, are perfect... I'd hate to see ya'll in REAL life.

Dream, I know we've been told not to talk to you anymore... But that's signing out in style! "shouldn't even bother addressing me" If I were smart I'd probably do the same...

-M

Sardine, yes I'm well aware of your views on the realtionships thing, but that has nothing to do with this topic. No one's dating for real.

Secondly, whether Erin's intentions were to make a request, it certainly wasn't portrayed like that. Several people were offended and I can see why. The title alone is telling people what to do. Though I can understand where you're coming from Erin, I think you could have chosen a more appropiate way to express yourself. I think everyone on the site RP's really well, some more realistic than others, but I don't see this topic as a issue or problem.

NOW, I'm closing this before things get worst than what they already are. If you have any further comments or questions regarding this topic, feel free to PM me. :)