hey well my boyfriend just broke up with me and I've been crying all day at school and its just seemed horrible all the time. He said he broke up because he didn't want to be in a relationship but that he still liked me and might get back with me..
Well no matter what it kills me inside everytime i see him and i cant seem to get over it..
advice much? :(

awe, i'm sorry Mari, guys on a whole are stupid, that's all i can pretty much sum up for you....But you're young you have so much potential in you, I would worry about it too much...You should know that you aqe very loved here, and else where in the world, I'm very sure...Boys are icky, you don't need them PFFT! *unless it's Johny Depp, then I say go for it :D*

er, that probably didn't help much but yeah....

Awhhhh. He did? :cry: I'm so sorry. I know that it hurts a lot right now. :( As far as him saying that he might get back with you, well thats up to you. Just remember that you are not there to be a convienance for him so he has no right to expect you to be available if he does decide that he made a mistake. Right now you need to stay close to your friends and force yourself to do things that are usually fun for you. All those saying that people have made up like what doesnt kill you makes you stronger, and while a door closes a window opens, sound very cliche, however they are also very true. Now you are free for the next person in your life, whenever you're ready to make that step. Just hold your head up high, force yourself to laugh a lot and one day you wont have to force it anymore. *hugs*

Mari, the whole "I still like you, but I don't want a relationship," is usually guy for "I wanna make out, but I don't want you to have any kind of hold on me." You deserve someone who wants to spend time with you. My advice is feel as bad as you want for like two weeks and then just try to get past it. Start hanging out with your friends, get into your old hobbies, or hang out here at the LC. Keep your mind off him. You will bounce back. I know it feels like the end of the world now, but give yourself some time and it won't seem so bad.

Yeah thanks for the advice guys, i mean im trying to hang out with my friends but the all seem to be busy as well xD and yeaa i have choir practice today i hope i dont totally break down there...
ill b on the LC more for some comfort and my friends say hell come back when he realizes wat hes lost, and i hope thats true but for now...
it really really hurts. its like the weirdest feeling, like your heart is really seriously ripping up in shreds.

He might come back...but he might not. Plan for not, that way you will be pleasantly surprised if he does, but prepared if he doesn't. Don't wait on him. This is your life so live it. There could be someone better out there just around the corner, but take this oppertunity to do what makes you happy.

Mari I know exactly what you're going through I went through the same thing when I was your age, even the "maybe we'll get back together" part and I have to say it was just like Scarlett said, and it hurt everytime we broke up, each time worst than the last and it went on for a few years, and thats what a lot of my high school memories consist of, crying in the hallway. But I did some good out of it, I met some of my closest friends in the world after we broke up, and they're the only ones from high school that I still talk to everyday. so I would suggest that you stick with your friends, and just have fun, there are plenty of fish in the sea ( a cliché I know but its true) you're better off without him plus you don't need him, your a good person and you'll find a good person who deserves you, and wants to be with you.

Mari, hang in there. They say time heals all wounds, and that's mostly true. Okay, so sometimes there are scars, but even a scar is a reminder that pain does fade, that wounds heal, that you hurt a little less and a little less each day until one day you have forgotten what all the fuss was about.

Just like I said in the Cbox when this situation was developing, you're better off. I think you know that, too, though it may take some time for your heart to realise what your head already knows. And do yourself a favor if he does come back: don't take him back. You deserve someone who cares about--and takes an interest in--you, not someone who would rather hang out with his friends and keep you waiting in the wings until he decides he want's a little action. I know that sounds bad, but I'm a guy and I can tell you that what Scarlett said is right. "I like you, but I just don't want a relationship right now," is guytalk for "I wanna have fun (wink wink) without commitments," or "I'm a selfish, immature punk who only cares about myself." (also in this category: 'Let's just keep things casual for now,' and 'why spoil a good thing by putting a label on it?') And, "I might still get back with you," is code for "I met someone else, but if things don't work out with her, you can be my fall-back."

Do you really want to be someone's plan-B? You gotta move on, and the way to do that is by doing whatever it takes to get through the day and getting through it. and then the next one. And the next. And so on.