Hey girls!

Well I hope this is not too personal but I am really interested in this, since my friends keep on coming to me that they have and I hear it from everwhere - and I would just like to know how common that actually is *lol*.

And also what do you think about it?


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Laila

I'm openly bisexual (to everyone but my family), but I haven't gone far with another girl... outside of dreams and online. I know I'd like to more, though.

Most of my friends are "theatre people", so I know quite a few gay guys (and even a few gay girls) and I admit that I have kissed girls a couple of times...both times though, I was drunk and it was a dare, so there's really no 'reasoning' behind it.

It seems to be quite the trend for girls to be bisexual these days though. I had a friend in uni who was one of those real 'sheep' kinda girls, always following whatever someone else decided was cool, and she decided that she was bi. And she was really obnoxious about it, talking about it at every opportunity even when it wasn't appropriate in the conversation, and she lied to us about having 'dates' with a girl. It was really annoying!

But I can understand how people would be curious, and it's a natural thing. No-one 'chooses' to be gay or bisexual, people are simply born that way.

*getting off soapbox now* lol

Good topic, though! :)

I totally agree to you Jamie Girl!
It does seem like a either a fashion thing, or a means to get male attention!
I mean there is nothing wroing in trying it for both reasons I guess, but to claim to be bi-sexual comes off really annoying when from people like you described them.

But actually I don't think that bi-sexuality is a born thing. I mean hm now that I think about it maybe for men - but I guess it has a lot to do with ones upbringing and surroundings - how sexually liberated you feel and all.
Oh and maybe how far the bi-sexuality goes, when one really has no preference to either sex.. then maybe is born that way... oh I dunno.

I would like to try kissing a girl, and I think it might be quite cool - but I don't think I could have have a relationship with one... I think.
Hmmm

lol hugs
Laila

I once french kissed my best friend on a bus. There were two old women sitting opposite us, and they were talking really nasty about homosexuals, and how homosexuality is a sin, a crime and blah blah blah... I got so angry at it (I mean, come on - first the Bible tells you to love your neighbour, and then it suddenly says that if he/she is homosexual, you should spear them. That doesn't make sense, does it?! And why would a sensible human being CHOOSE to be homosexual when he/she knows that many people will discriminate against him/her all the time?), and so did my friend. We just looked at each other and I didn't even have to ask. God, you should have seen the faces of those two intolerant chicks :lol: It was like a cliché in a bad movie, but it was fun coz they practically fled from the bus :yay:

Apart from that, I've had crushes on girls before, but so far I've only had boyfriends. It's not that I'm desperate trying a female, but well, never say never :)

I've kissed a girl.

But i was like 9.

And we wanted to be grown up or something like that.

If the oppurtunity arose i wouldn't back down.

I'm not bi or lesbian.

I just think it would be an experience.

That's totally my situation Ronnie. Except only a couple of my friends (away from the computer) know. How many hints do I have to drop without saying exactly 'I'm Bi'? Which would cause so many arguements. But apart from that your post was everything I wanted to say.

Louise Ann
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Okay, here is my little ditty.

I have also kissed a girl, in fact numerous girls. But in my situation, it was never just some random girl. All of my kissing has been strictly with my friends.

I must admit, a couple of times, the kissing was due to being egged on by guys. Another time, it was because we were all down at Mardi Gras and just pissed up like never before and so it seemed like a natural thing to do.

And the most recent experience was because my friend and I were drunk and we just started talking about kissing and one thing lead to another and there we were making out. The funny thing was...her husband and my man were in the next room. It was odd, we are both in committed relationships, but there was just something about being with another girl. I think we both did it, just to have the experience. You know, just to see what it was like...and that was that.

Anyway...that is my story. For whatever it is worth. -_-

JadeSalSolo: That's *such* an awesome thing to do!! :D

I have never kissed a girl, but I would definitely love to try. I've had crushes on girls, but I've never had the opportunity to snog one, lol. My boyfriend would let me though, so whenever the opportunity strikes, I'll grab it with both hands ^_^

Same here.

It was my best friend that lived down the block.


I'm not really sure that I would do it again.

Mostly because right now the thought of someone else's spit is kind of gross.

I have only kissed a girl once, but I was like really drunk then and trying to kiss everybode at the whole party ^_^
Well... relying on my drunken mind I don't think there was any special whith that. I mean. tounghe(sp?) as tounghe lol

I've never done it. And to be true, I'm not very interested right now. I thought about it while I was in junior high, but the time passed and I realized that I really like boys.

I'm open with homosexuality, and with bisexuality. I mean, every one have different way to see the beauty, the love, the sex. So I don't think someone has the power to say what's wrong, and what's right. It'd just different minds, different bodies, different worlds.

I have gay friends, and I've been supporting them since I knew they gay. But I must admit that I don't like when girls kiss just to get the attention of boys. That's sick, i guess, playing with something jsut because you want to put all the attention to you. I think that that gives the wrong vibe to the situation.

But it's just me :)

Andie

Heh. I probably shouldn't have said anything in the first place, as I seem to have killed the topic.

I've kissed a girl. A really close friend though. We were in a boarding school together a couple of months ago..and we were sitting in the bathtub and smoking, since it was the closest to the vent..we had to be really sure the smoke didn't stay or we'd be booted out. So anyways, we were just talking and messing around and we just kissed. For a second. And then kissed again. And then..a little more. But that and another day, with that same chick were the only times. I don't intend on kissing any more girls...atleast until I'm with my boyfriend. I love him alot and surprisingly, he's not very excited about the idea. He wouldn't mind if he was around, of course...pssh...but otherwise he doesn't want my lips to touch anyone else's while hes with me. And thats fair.

I've kissed a girl. Although it wasn't really my fault, I just couldn't help myself! See what happened was I was with some of my friends(a girlfriend from school and a guy and his boyfriend) at this cafe when I saw one of the Sisters from my school (Catholic High School) and she waved at me. So anyway she called me and my friend who's from the same school over and asked why I was with my other friends(the guys). I was kind of like 'wtf?' and she was like 'you girls know you shouldn't hang around 'those' sorts of people, you know very well where they are going to end up when they die'. So I turned to my friend and just kissed her. Ohmygawd the look my the Sisters face was priceless and my friend was like 'I guess we're going to hell with them' and we just walked off. I'm not trying to bag out Catholic people, I am one, but she ticked me off so much! I can't believe the nerve she had trying to tell me who I should hang out with.

And I must say kissing a girl was quite erotic.

Um, no offense, but; No, it does not. Yes, the old testiment does sentence homosexuals to death (along with a bunch of other strange things) because God is Holy and cannot allow sin to go unpunished (yes, it is considered a sin, but then again, so are many other things, such as cutting, and braiding your hair [or so I believe, though I can't remember the verse]) It's in the New Testiment that Christ places such an emphasis on loving God and loving people (though it's certainly there in the old testiment). If you read the gospels, it's easy to notice that it's the Pharisees, who think they're all high and might and holier than thou, that he critisizes; but the "sinners" He forgives and tells them to go "sin no more."

Now, I realize that this is an insanly controversial topic. Therefore, I would like to note that I'm personally not exactally happy about homosexuality being a sin. But one has to remember that it's the act that it "bad" not ever the person! (though I'm sure you all know that).

I am sorry that those women were being biggots, in fact I find it pretty freaking hilarious that you dealt with it the way you did. Just please know that, even if Christians do consider the act a sin (like lying, and lusting after people, which I'm sure we're all guilty of), not all of us are even near being homophobic biggots. Christ hung out with sinners (and tax collecters, eww lol just kidding), and Christians are called to follow his example. And when he hung out with them, I don't believe he saw them as "SINNERS *thunder clash*" but rather as children of God whom should be loved just as much as everyone else.

I can't honestly say for sure where I stand on all this, but I know that it's not going to change my attitude about any of you to know that your sexual orentation doesn't align with mine. *shrugs*

I don't know, I'll get off my soapbox now lol, I just wanted you to know that Christian's aren't suppose to spear sinners *shrug* We're suppose to love them, heck, we ARE them (sinners that is, by our definition). :\

It's not the Bible, it's the people who read it and think they know everything to life without stopping to think about what it's saying. It's those 'holier than thou' people who think because the Bible says it it must be completely and utterly true, no questions asked, without really thinking about all the stuff that contradicts it as well.

True. But trust me, not all Christians are like that. *shrugs* It just stinks that some are y'know?

I know the Bible doesn't say this in exactly these words. But the fact that there are so many contradicting passages in it, even in the new testament, makes it a little suspicious for me. And sadly, there are quite a few people who put forward exactly these arguments. I didn't want to offend you or anyone else, I was just (unconsciously) being slightly sarcastic. sorry if I made a wrong impression.

No wrong impression :) Sarcasm happens to be one of my close friends much of the time ;) Just one question though, which arguments are you reffering to? *wonders*

And yes, I suppose when looked at in [more than] one way the NT (and OT) could be seen to contradict itself *shrugs* But this thread isn't really for that sort of a discussion (the validity of the Bible one might say) So I'll stop typing now :P Besides, for what I do know, these aren't the sort of things that can be proven to someone who doesn't want them to be proven to. Not by me anyway. *shrugs* Ah well, ttfn! :)

Before I answer this question let me say that I am a very happily married woman. I have never been this much in love with anyone, but let me say that yes I was in love with a very beautiful yet very troubled girl.

She had never been with a girl before and neither had I. Her fiancee had taken off with another girl, and one night she was in such need of a loving touch she begged me to make love to her, so I did.

We fell into a physical relationship we both found quite pleasurable.
Then the boyfriend returned and she went back to him only to have him dump her again. She was so devistated she tried to kill herself by driving over the edge of a cliff. It didn't kill her but it left her beautiful face horribly scarred. She ended up in the hospital I was working in and I tried to help her but she wanted only the asshole who left her. She left the hospital and I never saw her again.
I've never been with a woman since.

As to the passage in the old testament. I think the passage is in Leviticus (not sure) and it reads
"Thou shalt not lie with a man as thou would a woman."
However there is no reference to this subject in the new testament.

Both Elliott and I have gay friends, and nothing erks us more than people like Jerry Falwell. Elliott says he's in the closet and that's why he picks on gays so much.

My view is people should live as they wish to. What they do in the privacy of their own bedroom is their business.

Catwoman

Okay first off the Bible says love your neighbor as yourself and that does not mean physical love. It also says that homosexuality is an abomination before the Lord and that man was created in God's image. Therefore homosexuality is a choice and not something you are born to. No doctor or scientist has ever been able to prove that it isn't a choice. But the Bible also says that God loves everyone. I do believe that homosexuality is a sin but I also believe that God expects me to love each person for who they are and not the choices they make. If we only loved people who lived the way we wanted them to then we would not be doing what God expects of us. I don't decide to like or dislike someone based on their sexual preference. I can like a person and respect them even if I do disagree with their choices. What really irks me to no end is when people say that because I am a christian that I am a hater. If I chose not to accept homosexuality as okay that I have no right to believe the way I want to. I don't lump all gay people into one category and say they are headed to hell and all christians shouldn't be either. If people want tolerance then they have to be willing to extend it also. As Catwoman said what they do in their own bedrooms is their business. We as humans have to learn to accept others, this doesn't mean we have to agree with them but just accept them.
Sandi

I kissed a girl before. It was at an Anime Con, and if you've ever been to one of those, a lot of times its a no holds-anything goes kind of atmosphere after hours on hotel floors or after dusk. My bestfriend and I were in need of some more money to help our friend w/cash for drinks and food. I know it makes me sound kind of whore-ish but my best friend and I had feelings for each other anyways, so we had a sign saying we would kiss for a dollar, and 3dollars to see us kiss. We got a lot of money that day cause most of the guys just wanted to see us kiss. It was an erotic feeling and I would probably do it again for fun. ^.^

I have never kissed a girl, but I have had girls have crushes on me. Why, I'm not entirely sure, but it doesn't bother me. I am not opposed to doing it, and in fact think I may like to try it, but I won't for the sake of my boyfriend. I would feel like I was cheating on him, and I know that he would feel the same.

I don't think you have to be homosexual or bisexual to kiss someone of the same sex either. Some people just like to experiment, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

As for some people believing that homosexuality is a choice I wonder, do we choose to be straight? We cannot control our feelings, or who we feel them for. The only thing that we can control is the way we act upon those feelings. It is no one else's business but our own, unless we go flashing ourselves in the faces of others.

Time for my two little cents, huh? lol

I admit that while out around town, I do tend to check out the girls along with the guys. I can't help but admire great shapes whether they be male or female. Who can? If someone has a great ass, I'm not afraid to point it out .. or even a nice rack (as most guys so nicely refer to our breasts :huh: ). The only time I have ever kissed another female was right after my mother died. My best friend came over to comfort me .. she was holding me in her arms .. and, for reasons I still do not understand, I kissed her. There was nothing sexual about it. We were just two friends trying to comfort one another during a period of grief. I am not sure whether I would ever kiss a girl for sexual pleasure or not .. but I will never complain about the one kiss I have shared. It was one of the best I've ever had.

Kisses,
Reneeka

Interesting topic. I can admit that I have experimented and if i'm out and I see a good looking woman, I am fairly open about it and point it out. I wouldn't say I was bi though (at least, in my opinion).

There are some people out there that believe everyone is at least in some way, attracted to members of the same sex and have bi-sexual tendancies. I think this could be true although it just depends on the indavidual and their preferences.

Frankee
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Interesting...
I must say that I get ''moved'' when I see a pretty woman and once or twice on TV when there's a lesbian flick (two girls kissing) on a soap or something, I do get ''that feeling''...that rushing feeling that I get when seeing a cute guy; my heart starts beating faster and I feel disapointed when it ends.
Does that make me gay? No - I wouldn't think so. Maybe curious...I am curious of what its like to be involved with a lass but, hell, my days of being a teenager are numbered, I must live a lot until then.

I've kissed a girl ... I even have a girlfriend, although I'm really very straight.

Long story. So I think it was almost two years ago, I was complaining about how I seem to repel boys, and how I hadn't had a boyfriend in forever, and I was just lonely. Well, my friend had just dumped this total asshole who cheated on her multiple times, and she was bemoaning the fact that all be boyfriends turn out to be complete jerks (I refrained from telling her that they only did that because she picked the jerks in the first place, but ...) and we decided, out of the blue, that we should go out. It was kindof a joke, but then it stuck. I think we decided our anniversary is the 21st of September, but I could be wrong on that.

I think the first time we kissed was to get her ex jealous, and it just made the rest of my male friends happy, so all in all, it was good. Now, it's just a completely regular thing. She walks me to my first period, and I walk her to her second (our classes are close to each other), and we kiss goodbye.

We went to prom together, and danced and were just cute and "gay" (she's painfully straight too). We have gay friends, and they all think our "relationship" is hilarious. Whatever. She's a good stand-in for when I crave attention. ^_^

I honestly don't think kissing girls is any different from kissing guys except that most girls have softer lips due to their constant application of chapstick and lip gloss. :lol:

I agree. Its very annoying.

Update from when I last posted: I've kissed a girl. It's good.