well this thread is going to be different. the more i think about it the more it changes. first off i was going to ask what love feels like. it is an emotion that i don't think iv'e had.

it then came to me that there were other emotions that i have never felt. The more i thought about it the more my emotions were contained in three categories.

happy. lack of emotion (which i am in most of the time) and sad.

by these i mean that i have never felt them to an extent to be called anything different. like extatic or even joyous for the happy.

lack of emotion explains itself

and for the sad it hasn't been to the extent that you colud call deppresion. i just suffer from servere bouts of bordum occasionally.

i was wondering if there is any problem with this really other than it makes it imposibly hard to describe emotions that you have never had to any extent. if so how can i cure it

i appologise if this is in the wrong section. i wasn't sure where to put it

I will take this challenge. You want to know what it is and like to think about. We both win.

Love is an assortment of feelings for someone or something. I will explain the love one would have for a girlfriend or lover.


Let’s see if you have ever been in love first, before I take on the task of describing it.

Look past physical beauty and ask yourself these questions:

Does he/she give me the most joy?
Does he/she give me the most comfort?
Does he/she give me the most annoyance?
How do I feel when I am around him/her?
Who am I when I am around him/her?
Do I like whom I am when he/she is near me?
Would I protect him/her even if it would cost me my life?
What would I do if they were gone?

You might be I love if you like the answers to those questions (Except for the last one of course).



Now I will try to describe it:

First, you will get a nervous fluttery feeling in your chest that is soon accompanied by a strong feeling of joy. (This usually happens in romantic moments or if you have seen them in awhile)

When you talk, you will feel nervous, but comfortable at the same time. (How is that possible? I don’t know, but it happens) You will laugh often to things that only seem funny when you talk with them and when they laugh to something you said, you get great sense of warmth. All along you having a feeling of playful annoyance as well.

When you touch them (Like in a hug or kiss) the fluttery feeling shots down your spine and through out your body. First it feels cold, but then it turns almost magically warm. (This feeling usually happens in romantic moments)

When you are parted, you feel a sense of loss, but are still warmed by the thought of them.

Now the greatest of all the feelings love has; how it feels when they love you the same as you love them. Take everything I have just said and combine them into one feeling. Now, take away any sense of doubt you may have about their love and toss it away. Think about how you look and how powerful you are. Take those things and throw them away, because if they love you, those things don’t matter. I like this part of it the best.

Love is also unconditional. If you feel like you must keep up an act to keep them interested, it is not love, but lie. (Read my sig)

You also have a strong sense to protect them for anything that may harm them. Why? I will put it simply, because you would die then to lose them. Sounds greedy, right? To avoid loss, you would rather them lose you instead of you losing them. Well, to be honest, it is. Depending on who you are will depend on the way you would handle the situation.

To sum it up, love is more then just one feeling, but an assortment of foreign feeling combined.

Does that answer your question?

well from your reply i think that i can safely say that i have never been in love.

joy seems to be something i lack. Or maybe i do feel joy and don't recognize that either.

comfort is something that i always feel. nothing can dent my sense of comfort. or atleast nothing that i have felt.

annoyance is something i feel rarely and generally happens when someone is acting stupidly. nothing annoys me more than an act of stupidity. esspecially when someone treats me as stupid. even if it is unintentionally.

I am always myself. i don't change how i act for anybody or anything. if they don't like it then oh well. oh wil get by.

would i protect them even if it cost my life? that is something i hope to never know. for it seems to me that you will only know that if a situation occurs that it is neccasary to sacrifice your own life for someone elses.

how would i feel if they were gone. probably no different from how i feel most days. Nothing at all. no emotion. I didn't even feel depressed when my grandad died last year. I was annoyed at myself but i cant really say that i felt upset.

strong emotion just seems beyond me

:huh: You are so hopeless. lol!

Check out my romantic poem in said thread, thats my personal idea of love, and I think you may like the idea. It involves despair a lot. No death yet, though, that may be where it falls down in your opinion :P

My idea of love for me and love in my stories are so different. Its more idealised in said stories, and I'm realistic, I mean, chances I meet perfect person are 1:99999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999

Chances I will walk past them or not make a move because of shyness: 1:2

wow. your a lot more likely than me i would rate that at about 99:100 for me

ah well. thats prob cos you'd be heading towards a broadband internet connection :P

LOL!!!! Actually sat and chuckled when I read that.

Emotions suck. I have too many. Maybe I think they suck because I have too many to humanly cope with. I would gladly share them with you. I do feel the extremes. Not depression to the point of wanting to kill myself though. That just seems pointless. What is the point of killing yourself when you're unhappy? Things will get better, they always do, so whats the point.

I'm also very lazy. Anything that invovles a fair amount of effort (unless I'm feeling energetic) gets left for another day. Much like tidying my room.... :D

i would be grateful for some emotion because i really don't seem to have any.

dude, listen to the guy whos delt with the opposite of love for most of his life. (yes hate james...hush now child)

Love is looking at someone, not neccecary romaticly and know you need them, knowing that they mea smething to you beyond mere companionship. Those that know me know my family life is...well fucked.. and that Ive had to build my home and family one person at a time.

I do not dissagree with lagana. ordinarily those are the signs for romantic love, but maybe once in your entire life you will find it different. Love is about getting close, the stuff you dont want them to know...your imperfections, that is the good stuff. Rachel bless her, she had an obsession with Mr potato men and not a day went by that i trod on one, yet i still smile and think of her everytime i see one.

I get bored too, iam constantly but i think of those that ive made my family and smile because no matter where they are they are with me. james is one, kirsty another....there is no peace, no end to the emptiness unless you try and find it man.

As to what it feels like when they are gone...I watched her die, and dream of her still, I would have given everything I am, my heart body and soull to trade places with her because simply without her Iam less, i loose my smile, part of my humor and perhaps my capacity to grow. I have tried several tomes to join her yet am stopped by the fact that she would not have wanted it and that her death broke me, something i still recover from AND I COULD NOT PUT THAT ON ANYONE ELSE.

In short mate, love is knowing as you are alive that you dont want anymore, that you could walk into hell and as long as she was beside you it wouldnt matter. love is the greatest gift that we can give or recive and I give mine freely to anyone i meet until they betay that trust. Don't worry if you havent found it yet but DONT EVER STP LOOKING.

If it's ny help, Rachel would have loved you like a brother, even as do I.

.... what Demon said.

you fool...do you actually use your bran when reading <sigh>

thats funny, i tried to find out the definition of love and it came up as
love -- a score of zero in tennis or squash
:huh:

Nicely put Demon. Sounds like you have something special with this Rachel. Much like what I have with my Shirley….

Well, this is what it comes down to. Nether Demon or can truly describe to you, no matter how many words we throw at you. It not that we lack writing talent, its that it is plain out can’t describe it. There are some feelings that can’t be put into words and love is one of them.

You have to find out for yourself. There may not be someone special in your life right now, but give it time.

Oh, and DL, you give it some time to. I will bet my life that you will find your true love someday.

I did have, but she....errr...she died. Ah well im over it now...3 years and over it finally. love her still, but still open for the next one......

Nice to see we're all nice and cheery in my absence.... Lol!

aww thats really sad.
i wonder how we get emotions?

that would require knowledge of how the brain works exactly and and as it is all electric signals and chemical reactions i can tell you i haven't the faintest idea

thats good enough.
so emotions have something to do with a brain.
:blink:
kaithar..................do you have a brain?

who knows, i don't think so. or maybe i have a brain that doesn't work. who knows

can we cut you head open and take a look? ^_^

it wont hurt i promise. i'm accurate with a knife!

:blink:

Thats not a good thing, surely...

i am quite sensible when i have a sharp object in my hand.
unless tristan comes along then i loose control.

no, i don't think i would trust anyone to cut open my head safely

i cant cut things up when they are alive, if you give me a kidney or and eye i can happily cut it up for you but if they were attached in a person............forget it, no way!

i COULFD DO IT...I TRAINED IN KNIFE THROWING/STABBY STAB STAB

:blink:

ok now i'm worried!!
just wondering, if you see someone you know and it feels like you are on a roller coaster every time they look at you. do you think that means anything?

Whenever it happens to me it means I'm in love. Why, who do you look at and that happens?

i'm not saying.
you will all laugh.

I won't. Promise.

no because some people on AU know him and i will et embarassed.
i hate being around him though because he makes my brain stop working and when he talks to me, the words are just stuck in my mouth and all i do is stare at him.
....he probably thinks i'm weird :(

who dammit

he asked me the time today and i was a complete idiot and just stared at his face.
how embarrasing!!!
i am frosen when he looks at me. i wish i actually said somthing to him now.

stupid, stupid girl!!!!

WHO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SOMEONE YOU DONT KNOW!!!!!!!!

i made myslef look like a complete idiot in front of him.

:lol: its always the way.....
if i dont know him then you can tell me ;)

you dont know him but others do.
i try to act natural but i seem to look like a complete idiot.
i cant think, i cant talk i cant do anything when he's around.
i keep droping things.
it's weird.

thats normal....just concentrate on standing still and saying one thing at a time. works 4 me ^_^

thats normal?????

you're joking right?

concentrate on what, his face????
say what???? something stupid??

That is normal. we've all dun it.

Say something normal and concentrate on the words that you are speaking....the clumsiness and stuff should pass...eventually.well for most ppl u like anyway

^_^
i'l try but i wont succed, i can tell you that now.


what you are forgeting is that i'm aine and nothing goes right for me. weird stuff happens to me.