Hi everybody - HELP!!!!!!!
I'm feeling really low at the moment. "Waw" Have just had another bad evening with my son. He goes into a 'temper' and throws things about, slams doors, doesn't worry about what he breaks, kicks and is arrogant. You try to talk to him and he just ignores you and shouts even louder, he wants to kick and hurt his older sister so I end up standing guard of her. There seems no way of getting through to him when he's like this and I have to wait for the crying session that comes eventually to know that it's all over. This is usually between 2 -3 hours later. I have tried sending him to his bedroom, but he won't stay there and I feel that I have to guard him to stop him hurting himself. I try to stay calm and not smack him but it's getting impossible. He's only 11 but he is frighteningly STRONG and I really struggle with him.
How does anybody else deal with this type of situation?
I can't go on as I am -it's making me ill. It's interesting that he doesn't do this when his Dad's at home, not usually anyway.
:blink: hi there
i have a son hes 11 he has behaviour problem he has to go to anger mangement we havent been going there long only 2 month she seems ok hope it will work .aaron gets in to bad tempers and take it out on his other to brother who are 10,and 7 it hard for me to see him being so nasthy to them and it hurt me ,linda who we see for aaron tell me to talk to aaron and never shout at him its hard for her to say i have been doing what she has said to do for the last 2 weeks and she seems right we was told to explains things to him like if when he goes on one i just say to aaron i not going to talk of listen to you when your like this i will only talk to you when you can talk to me ok and that seems to work for aaron and we have been told to give him house rule and we have been told to tell him if he breaks a house rule then we are to punish aaron by taking something a way but then we have been told when we have taking something away from him we can tell him he can earn it back but we tell him how and if he doesnt do it then he looses it for a day or2 that has also worked for us .i know it hard to cope aaron is good when his dad is here and not at work aaron gets me down loads but there is light at the end
O dear....how am I gonna cope with all this....?
I am also going through the same, 11 and 14 year old boys, both diagnosed and taking meds. The counselling they are attending helps, but I'm still strugging on a daily basis. They still have their highs and lows....
Making the situation worst, my other half also ADHD diagnosed and on meds too...unfortunately he is is not making much effort for counselling, with the excuse-busy with work. How can I help him when he's not helping himself...?
He's been in and out of work all his life, never lasting more than 2 years with each employer. I don't want him to lose his present job. I just want him to do something about his ADHD...
The 11 year old is also very aggressive and high strung.
Had a chat with hubby this evening.....it took a lot of my energy to make him see things from where I'm standing.
At the end of the day, our relationship suffers, .....
wish I am also ADHD, maybe I wouldn't feel the way I'm feeling right now. I felt so tired and alone .....
With you all on this one and sometimes its the younger brother whinging about what my adder is doing that drives me even madder. Really nice to know we are not alone eh.
XXX